Pastor David’s sermons about GRACE have been speaking what's in my heart and stirring-up
things I really want to share. People
who know me probably won’t believe that over the last few months I have really
been trying to “bite my tongue” and limit what I say. So – for the past few
weeks I haven’t even looked on FB to avoid a possible slip. But maybe
on the topic of forgiveness and grace – with over 10 years of personal and
spiritual dysfunction, then over 10 years of youth ministry having incredible Christians pour into my life, then 10 more years of providing marriage and family counseling and listening to clients, then 10 years of teaching and learning how to be heard – maybe there IS
something I can contribute to the conversation.
It’s been a lonely, past few months – I’m being confronted
constantly with my own “differentness” in beliefs and values from those around me. It struck me recently, society does not always
welcome “different”. Possibly with some
valid reasoning. Our ancestors were
tribal in nature. Someone unfamiliar or different, could be dangerous to the cohesion and survival of the group. It becomes a
matter of who can you trust? Conformity of behaviors, beliefs and even
appearances can promote trust. In today's fear-striken environment, we are having a hard time determining who should be trusted? When your ideas don’t match
up with your friends, family or neighbors, it's understandable why maybe others question your purpose in the group. Maybe you should be considered
dangerous to the group’s cohesion.
I’ve read tweets and posts of Christians who state they feel
“politically homeless”. I can
relate. When everyone seems to be taking
a political position, as a Christian nothing feels right for me. I have huge
forgiveness issues here – (so much I need to give to God but its not my intent
to go off in a political discourse)- only to
recognize my need to apply grace to these issues. A former pastor once told me about E.G.R.’s –
people who need Extra Grace Required. This is the individual that everyone has
a hard time accepting and would prefer to avoid. He said, “Every group has at least one member
who needs to be extended “extra grace”.
If you can’t figure out who that person is in your group, it’s probably you.” What if for all the issues playing out before
us in social media – we offered to the parties involved – “extra grace”. I’m not suggesting we should agree or
disagree with any particular position, but that we extend empathy, compassion and grace for
the people involved. Our life experience
brings us to what we believe, how we behave and who we are. We don’t always know why someone’s heart is
in the place it is – but we do know that we can and should offer grace.
I love how Pastor David tied grace and forgiveness together. I once heard grace and mercy explained this
way. Mercy is NOT getting what you DO deserve, and grace IS getting what you DON'T deserve. Forgiveness involves both. For me, as Pastor David was speaking a connection
was formed between forgiveness and grief.
Afterall, hurt involves pain and sorrow.
Just like in grief, our ability to forgive may seem impossible- unsurmountable. Even if we are able to forgive, we will still
have moments where our hurt and pain resurface.
It’s like going to the beach, wandering out into the water and standing
with our backs to the waves. A wave will
come upon us in surprise, overtake us and maybe even knock us down. We somehow manage to get our balance in sync
with ocean and eventually learn to rise and fall with the tides. We get better at riding those tides but we
never know when a wave may take us off balance. So it goes with forgiveness. (Click link to Oceans by Hillsong)
Why should we forgive?
Why shouldn’t we protect ourselves against hurt? The idea of forgiveness and offering grace to
the underserving sounds awfully vulnerable and vulnerability is dangerous.
Forgiving others is for our own good.
Proverbs 17:22, “A cheerful heart is like medicine, but a broken spirit
dries the bones”. Would you agree that holding
on to hurt turns the heart bitter? The
red letters in Mark 11:25 show us what Jesus says, “Whenever you stand praying,
if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven
may also forgive you your trespasses.” Verse 26 will take it one step further. Paul
states in Ephesians 4:32 states, “Be kind to one another, tenderhearted,
forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.” It is our ultimate hope, when we are finally gathered with Him - Revelation 21:4, “…God
will wipe away every tear from their eyes; there shall be no more death, nor
sorrow, nor crying. There shall be no
more pain, for the former things have passed away.”
I’m finding myself realizing more and more every day. God is calling me to be different. The church is called to be different. Roman 12:2, “Do not conform to the patterns of this world but be transformed by the renewing of your minds. This IS your spiritual act of worship”. When you are different (as time has shown us) the world will reject you. Ask Jesus. Maybe it’s a sign that we’re on the right path. Because, history has also shown us, it is being different that draws people to Him. Offering grace to a hurting world - the grace that has been extended to us - there is an attraction like no other.
"But when the kindness and love of God our Savior appeared, he saved us, not because of righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy. He save us through the washing of rebirth and renewal by the Holy Spirit, whom he poured out on us generously through Jesus Christ, our Saviour, so that, having been justified by his grace, we might become heirs having the hope of eternal life." Titus 3:4-7.
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